F*IT Moments
For many of us, emotions and food are deeply intertwined. We eat when we are happy, we eat when we are sad, we eat when we are stressed or tired and the list goes on. Let’s face it, we don’t always eat the healthiest things in those moments.
There are times when we are more emotional than others and what we truly seek is...
Comfort.
When we eat because we need comfort, there’s another thing that usually causes that. Something I call:
The Fuck It Moment. (otherwise called the F* It moment)
This is the moment where you just don’t care and you need the comfort NOW! because the pain or discomfort in that moment is too much.
I was reminded of this last weekend because I was sad (still am 🙁). We had to say goodbye to one of our furry kids, a kitty named Babs, who was 16.5 years old. Back in the day when I was a performer and she was a kitten, she travelled with me to gigs. She lived on two different coasts, retired in sunny California and lived out her final years actually getting to enjoy the outside air. Of course, knowing she had a long life with us doesn’t make it easier. So naturally, I had some big F* IT moments. And by some, I mean many....
I am talking ice cream, PB & J for dinner, wine, pizza, and some sugary stuff that I don’t remember nor eat on a regular basis.
I don’t usually share personal stories like this because I know people look to me to be positive and encouraging. But I am sharing this because we all have these F*IT moments. And when they happen, we should give ourselves whatever it is we need without worrying about what it could do to the scale.
Sometimes we need space and time not to worry about what we are shoving into our mouths. We need those few things that do in fact give us comfort.
However, there’s a difference between having occasional F*IT moments where you turn to food for comfort and having an unhealthy relationship to food.
Recognize your why. Why do you reach for certain unhealthy foods at times you know you shouldn’t? When you learn the true connection between your emotions and your auto response, you are able to decipher more clearly when you truly need food for comfort versus it being an unhealthy habit.
Turning to food because of everyday stresses or because we are just super tired are not true F*IT moments. You know the difference.
So what do we do when we are stressed or tired?
When you get stressed: what are some alternative things you can do to alleviate the stress that doesn’t have to do with grabbing excessive amounts of sugar or food? Do that instead.
When you are tired: what are some alternative things you can eat that can give you longer lasting energy instead of a sugar crash? Is there some non food/ drink thing that could give you an energy boost? Do that instead. (See my Wellness Guide HERE for a few options)
The idea is to learn better control of your auto response of grabbing crappy food at times like stress and fatigue... to keep it at bay or turned off. But it's ok to let that auto response take over for a while when it's a true F*IT moment and you truly need comfort the most. And that’s A.O.K.
Have you had any F*IT moments recently? I would love to hear!
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